In college, this trend continued. Same for my first year out of college. Til I made my first big decision all for myself: I was moving to Los Angeles. Everyone had an opinion about this: my parents (don't go!), my sister (don't come back!), my main gay (girl, don't forget to write!), but for the first time in my life I made a decision for me and frankly, I didn't give a $*#@ what anyone else thought. This turned out to be one of the greatest decisions I ever made.
|If anyone tries to rain on your parade just give 'em a Nene.|
Suddenly, I was making choices for ME and no one else. And many of those choices have gotten me to where I am today which, I'm happy to report, is the happiest in my life I've ever been. Now, before you get all excited that I'm giving you permission to not give a damn about anyone but yourself, bear in mind there are limits to this. Let's explore.
Example A: "I don't have to workout because I don't give a $@%& if people think I'm fat."
Example B: "I don't have to do the new ballet barre class every twit in town tells me I have to try, I'd rather learn to box."
Now, which one do you think is the correct implementation of my foul languaged life mantra? Duh, Example A.
I kid, I kid. Obviously it's Example B. The underlying sentiment of the whole thing is to make yourself happy and ignore anyone who tries to get in your way. You don't have to go to spin class just because I love it. Your goal in getting fit doesn't have to be so that you can look good in a bikini if you don't give a $*@^#( about swimming. It doesn't matter what your motivations, habits, and patterns are as long as they are making you happy and successful. Who cares if people think they're weird? Not me.
The best part of this mantra is that it isn't limited to the superficial things. For instance, some people find it strange that my boyfriend and I only see each other 2 or 3 times a week. But guess what? I don't give a $*@#! I am stupidly happy with him, we trust each other, and we both like our space. So this is what works for us.
My point? Do what works for YOU even if it's not "normal." Do what you like even if it's not "cool". And if anyone chooses to judge you for it? Just don't give a $@#*!